Do you have a list of qualities that you’d want in a perfect mate? Inspired by a friend who’d written her own list, I put together a list of qualities I’d like MY perfect man to have. What would your perfect man (or woman) be like? Feel free to share your list of qualities in the comments section. I’d love to read it.
The Qualities for My Perfect Guy
1. Is kind-hearted to animals.
2. Is caring of others.
3. Is giving.
4. Is thoughtful.
5. Is not afraid to cry.
6. Is not afraid to laugh.
7. Has a great laugh that makes me laugh along or at least smile.
8. Notices the things I like.
9. Notices the things I don’t like.
10. Knows how to paint my toe nails.
11. Knows how to give me a foot massage.
12. Likes to put lotion on my body.
13. Loves dogs.
14. Loves my dogs.
15. Loves our dogs.
16. Won’t mind walking the dogs when I’m tired.
17. Love kids.
18. Loves me.
19. Shows me that he loves me.
20. Tells me that he loves me.
21. Is comfortable with saying, “I love you” (Doesn’t have to say it 24/7).
22. Loves to travel.
23. Loves to explore.
24. Loves to talk to me.
25. Loves to listen to me.
26. Likes to read my stories.
27. Likes to help me experiment for my stories.
28. Treats women with care and respect.
29. Knows how to drive (since I don’t know how).
30. Won’t mind driving me around anytime, anyplace.
31. Is well-groomed.
32. Knows how to dress for the occasion (knows when to wear jeans or a suit and tie).
33. Knows and practices good hygiene.
34. Is tall (6’3” or taller).
35. Has dark hair and dark eyes.
36. Is teddy bear/linebacker size.
37. Is lovable like teddy bear.
38. Knows how to be cool as a cucumber when needed.
39. Knows how to work hard.
40. Likes to play when the occasion calls for it.
41. Knows how and when to relax.
42. Knows how to be laid back.
43. Is deliciously endowed in his nether regions.
44. Knows what to do with what the good Lord gave him in his nether regions.
45. Is a sensitive lover.
46. Is a considerate lover.
47. Is an awesome lover.
48. Loves to have sex with me.
49. Can’t get enough of me.
50. Is a terrific kisser.
51. Loves to kiss me.
52. Makes my toes curl and my body tingle when he kisses me.
53. Is rugged.
54. Is earthy.
55. Has a good sense of honor.
56. Has a fair sense of justice.
57. Always wants to make me happy.
58. Believes in God.
59. Is spiritual.
60. Knows how to get along with others of different backgrounds.
61. Knows how to give genuine compliments.
62. Knows how to be romantic.
63. Surprises me with thoughtful gifts.
64. Loves to give me flowers.
65. Loves to take long walks.
66. Loves to sometimes hold hands.
67. Loves to enjoy quiet evenings.
68. Likes to go out.
69. Is intelligent.
70. Is well-spoken.
71. An accent would be nice (but that’s optional).
72. Will share in the household chores.
73. Better yet, can get me a house cleaner (or chip in for one).
74. Is confident.
75. Is a hard worker.
76. Makes decent money (doesn’t have to be rich but should be financially stable).
77. Knows how to handle money properly.
78. Loves what he does for work, doesn’t matter what the job is.
79. Not afraid to work.
80. Not afraid to do any kind of work to support self and family.
81. Have a nice singing voice.
82. Likes to sing.
83. Likes to sing for me.
84. Likes to whistle.
85. Likes to whistle at me.
86. Looks good in a cowboy hat (and nothing else).
87. Looks good in cowboy boots (and nothing else).
88. Holds family values important.
89. Likes books.
90. Likes movies.
91. Likes a good story.
92. Likes my stories.
93. Likes to share his dreams with me.
94. Likes to dream with me.
95. Can be charming.
96. Wants to do the dishes when I’m the one who cooks.
97. Likes to cook with me.
98. Likes to cook for me.
99. Likes to eat anything I prepare.
100. Is creative.
101. Is devoted.
102. Is independent.
103. Is honest.
104. Is respectful.
105. Is reliable.
106. Is passionate.
107. Has and enjoys a good sense of humor.
108. Has no criminal tendencies.
109. Is concerned about good health but not obsessed.
110. Is emotionally balanced.
111. Is good with his hands.
112. Is good with his fingers.
113. Is good with his tongue.
114. Has a hot voice that makes me smile and puts my body in overdrive when I hear it.
115. Is educated (formally or from the School of Life).
116. Causes me to get a nice tingly sensation when he touches me.
117. Knows what he wants.
118. Goes after what he wants.
119. Normally gets what he wants.
120. Knows how to put the toilet seat down after using it.
Paz Edwards
February 8th, 2010 at 2:34 pm · Link
Paz, great list! I’d say you’ve about covered it. Except for the hands. Beyond being good with them, I love me a guy with sexy hands. These can be long and lean, or wide and powerful-looking. And big hands with long fingers are especially nice.
February 8th, 2010 at 4:26 pm · Link
I don’t see why you shouldn’t have all of the above. You are more than deserving. As far as my crazy ex-husband, he had none of the above, except for the sex parts. I was blinded by lust. He knew how to use all of the above requirements, as far as hands, nether regions, fingers, tongue and even toes. Whoo, Hoo!!! I should have looked further, but at the time, I was a crazy person. I did get a son out of it, but the man, I could have done without and did in the long run. Oh yeah, financially, he was very capable, but he didn’t want to share, so a fat lot of good that did me. I am going to send you a list I made up about twenty years ago, as soon as I find it. I had it tacked to the wall in my office.
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My list is a lot shorter than your’s, Paz. I have a lot less patience. My process of elimination is a lot quicker.
WANTED:
SINGLE MALE (PREFERABLY HUMINA, HUMINA) FOR SEASONAL BOYFRIEND
*NO JAWANGA HEADS ALLOWED. (THAT ELIMINATES A WHOLE GENERATION)
UNCONDITIONAL RULES FOR RELATIONSHIP:
1. MUST HAVE YEARLY INCOME OF AT LEAST $75,000. (I HAVE TO FACTOR IN A SUBSTANTIAL RAISE DUE TO INFLATION, AFTER ALL, THIS LIST IS OVER 20 YEARS OLD, THE MINIMUM HAS BEEN RAISED TO $150,000)
2. MUST HAVE OWN ABODE (NO WAY HE’S LIVING IN MY HOUSE)
3. MUST BE WILLING TO SHARE INCOME WITH GIRLFRIEND (ME) YEAR ROUND (INCLUDING RULE 6)
4. NO PHYSICAL CONTACT ALLOWED!!! (THIS RULE CAME ABOUT BECAUSE 20 YEARS AGO, WE FOUND OUT ABOUT AIDS, I TOOK THAT DISCOVERY VERY SERIOUSLY) THIS RULE HAS SINCE BEEN REVISED TO THE OCCASIONAL TICKLE. I’M NOT DEAD AFTER ALL.
5. MUST SHOWER LAVISH GIFTS ON GIRLFRIEND (ME)(NOT INCLUDING HOLIDAYS).
6. BOYFRIEND IS ONLY NEEDED FOR THE FOLLOWING TIMES:
SUMMERS AND HOLIDAYS (SPECIFICALLY CHRISTMAS, BIRTHDAY AND VALENTINE’S DAY**)
7. MANDATORY SUMMER TRIPS, (REVISED SINCE THEN TO SPRING, WINTER AND FALL WILL BE INCLUDED IF RETIRED)
** BOYFRIEND WILL BE GIVEN SPECIFIC INSTRUCTIONS FOR THIS HOLIDAY AT A LATER TIME.
February 8th, 2010 at 4:55 pm · Link
This is an outstanding list! And don’t underestimate the power of it. I made my list of 116 qualities in the fall of 2000, and the man who had 113 of those qualities moved in with me in January 2001 … now we’re married. This kind of intention has BIG ENERGY! So way to go! You deserve the man you’ve described here, and he’s making his way to you now.
February 9th, 2010 at 5:12 am · Link
Wow, Paz. What a great list. I’d add likes to garden and loves to cook, and I’d probably add he’s allowed some small faults because I’m sure as heck not perfect.
February 13th, 2010 at 5:57 am · Link
Hi Christine: Oh yes to the hands.
Hi Delle: ROFLOL! I love your list!!!!!
Hi Tailwags: I love your example!
Hi Shelley: I like gardens, too. So that will have to go on my list Small faults are allowed, too.
Glad you could all stop by.
February 25th, 2010 at 7:52 pm · Link
What a great blog post.
Oh and uh…I love the eye candy.
: )
Catherine Chernow
February 27th, 2010 at 3:18 pm · Link
Hi Catherine!
I love your ideal Perfect Man, too.
LOL! Yeah, I love the eye candy, too.
Paz